Faith At home Articles

Is my child ready for communion?

At New Life, we teach that every child should be trained and taught about Jesus by their parents in the home. Our role is come along side and assist you, but we not replace you. 

Right along with this, is the decision on whether your child is ready to receive communion. We leave this decision up to the parent, but find if the child has been raised learning about Jesus since birth it is typically around age 7 or 8. If your child sees the bread and the cup as snack time, they are likely not ready. 

We found a great article recently about this topic and we will share an excerpt below. The full article is here.

Sooner or later, a child who is regularly sitting through a Sunday morning worship service is bound to ask something like, 

“Why can’t I have a ‘snack’ like everyone else?” So it is not surprising that the second most-frequent question I am asked in children’s ministry is, “When should my child take the Lord’s Supper?” Since it is such a prevalent question, I have been encouraged to write an article on the subject.

A General Response

When people inquire about children taking the Lord’s Supper, I have two perspectives to share with them. The first is that our communion services are open to all present, including children, who are:

  • trusting in Jesus Christ alone for the forgiveness of their sins and the fulfillment of all his promises to us (including eternal life); and
  • who intend to follow him as Lord and obey his commandments. 

Therefore, children are welcome to participate in the Lord’s Supper:

  • when they can understand its significance; 
  • when they are able to give a credible profession of faith in Christ; 
  • and when they consciously intend to follow the Lord in obedience. 
  • There is no test they take or class they attend to help establish their readiness. We simply leave it up to parents to decide when their young disciples are ready.

Enoch- a dad who started walking with god

"I have been thinking about Enoch, and how he holds for us a great "faith begins in our homes" lesson. Really it is call for dad's to Godly fathers.

Gen 5 is the text- Lets do a little math.

  • Verse 21 says he lived 65 years and THEN become a dad.
  • Verse 22 says after he become a dad, he started walking with God.
  • Verse 23 says he lived a total of 365 years.

So... 365 years of life - 300 years that he walked with God = 65 years he did not walk with God. In other words at year 65, the same time he became a father, he started with walking with God.

I don't know how it actually happened. There were no churches or pastors to go to in that day. Somehow though, God got a hold of his heart, and called him off the path that he walking on over to the path that was hand in hand with God the Father.

I don't know how Enoch lived the first 65 years of his life. Maybe he was into wild living, selfish living, or maybe he was outwardly religious but God did not have his heart. We do know that the inclination of all around him was only wickedness from Gen 6. So if he was living anything like the culture around him during the first 65 years of this life, then he was not very Godly.

But God called him and he answered. Enoch's son needed a Godly father. He needed a man to tell him how to live for God in the midst of the wickedness that surrounded that generation. He needed a man to show him what walking with God means. He needed a consistent example of how to be faithful. And Enoch became of all these, walking with God for 300 years.

Our families need the same things today from the men and fathers who are following Jesus. Our sons need it, our daughters needs. Faith starts in the family. Enoch is a great lesson in getting off the wrong path and walking with God.

It is not to late, lets do our job guys.

Blessings,  Pastor Ray

faith at home explained

A well done video clip explaining Faith at Home.

Data: Are our children leaving the faith?

Data shows trends, but God is changing everything!

The church that meets at your house must be congruent with the one that you attend on Sundays. I have repeated this every Sunday for the last month! Sorry for the repeat, but I wanted us to get deep in our thinking as we have been rediscovering God's plan for health in the family.

Why? This past Sunday I noted that there is a lot of data showing that we have been losing 60-90% of the next generation by the time they are out of high school 2 years! Only a small portion ( 20 - 35%) ever return to church. Most young people do not change to a different religion, but simply drop out from faith. There are many reason for this, but most of them point back to the home. Our time in Dt. 6 pointed us back to the home as well.

I wanted to share the sources for this information. In my last sermon, I was in particular quoting Family Driven Faith by Voddie Baucham Jr., but there are many studies showing similar data. The data varies based a little based on denomination and region, but it overall is shows an trend that is very concerning.  

That is the bad news.

But there is good news too!

God has brought this awareness to our attention, and families are rising up and taking their place again. There is restoration and healing. There are more resources then ever before to help parents. We are regaining the truth that Faith is Better Caught than Taught!

internet protection for your family

Every Christian Family Needs Internet Protection.

Here is where you can start.

By now, most know that the internet is full of sites that can damage your family, your kids, and even your faith. Temptation is right at the door for most families. It is becoming a serious problem in the home, I get to hear the stories often when the damage has already been done. And the surprising part is many parents had no idea their kids would do anything wrong.

In addition to the bad sites and dangers that lurk, the simple amount of time many spend on the computer is a problem by itself. I know it is a parents responsibility to protect their kids. So I am writing today to give you two free tools we use in our home to practice accountability, filtering and time usage control.

The tool we use at our home and at our church is This a great tool if you use a router as it blocks questionable content at the router level therefore it is effective on any device connected to the network, including mobile ( without having to put something on every device). They have a free version, and paid version. You can use their default settings without creating an account or create an account and customize the settings. Highly recommended.

Another tool that may have a place for some is It is free, and when installed it sets up accountability reports sent your accountability partners automatically. At last check, it does NOT filter though, it is accountability ONLY. It is geared more adults who are struggling than for family protection.

Lastly I also recommend K9 Web Protection for families. It both filters 'bad' sites and allows a parent to set time controls so our kids are not spending all their free time in front of the screen. What I also love about it is that it will shut off the internet when you want it off. I highly recommend this software, it is a must for all families. It is found here:

Update: there is new service here - It may worth looking into also.

~ Pastor Ray

sportsmanship starts at home

Sometime ago I saw a TV commercial. It was great... it featured kids saying things that sports crazed and overzealous dads and moms sometimes say at sports events. Things that are seemingly OK for a ticket paying adult to say, but were clearly out of place (even funny) for a young child say. The statements were things like: Complaining about the referee's, intending to get revenge, etc. I am trying to find a clip of the commercial on the internet, but so far no luck.

The end of the commercial says "sportsmanship begins at home". I was thrilled, because I agree. In fact, there have been a few times that I failed to model this well in my home. The point of the commercials was that if these kids are modeled in bad sportsmanship at home, they will in turn be bad sports. Or put another way, they are being we are making disciples at home by the actions and words we choose as parents.

You see, God has created a channel into a child's heart where a parent has a direct and powerful influence. I found it fascinating that a non-Christian commercial correctly hit the target by recognizing this fact.

So if sportsmanship begins at home... how about discipleship and faith?

Blessings, PR

why building faith at home is so important

Mark Holman has an excellent brochure about faith at home... today I want to highlight one page of it that gives 3 reasons why building faith at home is so important, followed by my comments.


Reason #1 – The Antidote to Hypocrisy Mark comments:

  • One of the primary reasons why people leave, or do not engage in, the Christian faith is hypocrisy. Many have grown up in or around Christians who act, dress and behave one way at church while they live a completely different way a part from church.• Faith@Home is critical for both churches and individuals today as it strikes at the core deterrent that is turning many people away from Christianity. Faith@Home is about helping people live a 24/7 Christian lifestyle not a one-hour, at church only, Christianity.

When faith is disconnected from the home, from every day life, it creates inconsistent, weak believers at best and hypocrites who only appear to be following Jesus at worst. But when it is applied and lived in the home then we know "the rubber has met the road".

Reason #2 –The Home is still the number one influence.

  • When Christian teenagers were asked to identify the things that influenced them to become and remain Christians the top two influences identified were mom and dad. In fact, mom and dad were two to three times more influential than any church program. It is clear that what happens at home is more influential than what happens at church. While church programs are important they are secondary in impact to the influence that the home life has on faith development and nurture.

Life has taught me in most cases, not all but most, that in the end kids have the same priorities and lifestyle as their parents modeled for them, regardless of what was taught to them. I think this is the way God created it to be. Let's use it for good.

Reason #3 – Multi-Generational Impact

  • The choices and decisions we make today will not only impact us but it will impact our children and grandchildren as well.• The good news is that the decision we make today, to be a Faith@Home household and Faith@Home focused church, will not only impact us but it will impact future generations as well!

Building faith at home, bringing God ways, standards, prayer, bible reading, and modeling back to the front burner can effect not only the next generation but all that follow. Kids remember seeing their parents pray, of course, the opposite is also true.

Blessings today.

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